I’ve made it a goal to avoid drama in my life. I find that things are much easier if you minimize exposure to volatile people and high drama situations. High drama people typically:
• Hold grudges easily
• Stand on ceremony
• Play the victim card
• Gossip
• Actively seek confrontation
These are the same people that break up families, destroy office morale, and ruin friendships.
Think of the high drama people in your life. When you listen to their stories the one common thread is that they are always judging others. In their mind they are the righteous party always taking the moral high ground.…
This week was the first time in several years that I have experienced significant stress in my life. Just when I thought I had risen above it, it came back to bite me. As I have mentioned in earlier blogs, I went through a period in my life where I experienced such severe stress that I would get sick several times a week. I have been fortunate to get control of it. As each year has passed, I have gotten better at managing stress. This past week has been a test and although it wasn’t as severe as what I dealt with earlier in life, it definitely woke me up to the fact that I haven’t totally overcome all of my challenges.…
Years ago while working for a prior organization, I had a boss that was not treating me well. After a period of time, it became clear that we were going to have difficulty co-existing. I remember being very distraught. I didn’t want to leave. I really liked the firm and my co-workers. I even believed that my success was due this organization. After leaving and joining a smaller, less prestigious firm (for considerably more money), I realized that my success had nothing to do with my prior firm. In fact, I was much happier, and was treated better than I ever had been at the prior firm.…
Last week we talked about the concept of riding the wave as a metaphor for how to live a fulfilling life. The point I made is that you first have to get present in the moment and accept what is. Once you are in the moment it is important to tune into your environment. Think of your environment as the current in the ocean. You can navigate in the direction you would like to go but you must do so within the framework of the current. As I mentioned earlier, fighting it or wishing it away doesn’t change what is, and does nothing but render you powerless to improve your situation. …
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