Modern day stress normally doesn’t come on at once, it builds in the mind over time. Here are some thoughts on how to take a situation, stop, and reframe to avoid stress. …
I was on a flight from New York to West Palm the other night. I helped the couple next to me (who were in their 60’s), put a suitcase in the overhead compartment. As soon as we sat, the pilot made an announcement about a long delay due to a mechanical issue with one of the engines. The woman immediately began complaining. She blamed the airline for incompetence. She proceeded to vent for at least 15 minutes. Through our discussion I found out that she was going back to Florida to an empty house. She hadn’t even made a connection from anywhere else.…
Many of us spend our days mentally re-living our past mistakes. We then compound that mental energy by worrying about our future. The reality is that focusing your daily energy on past mistakes, conversations, presentations, or events, only causes stress. What’s done is done. You can’t change the past. The idea of spending time worrying about your worst-case future scenario does little to alter it. Abraham Maslow understood that “the ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness.”
So why is it so hard to stay focused and present? Even small children, after encountering a mean child, will walk away wishing they had said something different, or something at all, to that bully.…