In order to take control of your life you must first accept what is. You begin by playing the hand you are dealt. It is important to realize that your past doesn’t control your life unless you allow it to. Will you stay mired in the past or look to build your future the way you would like it to be? This is a choice you need to make.
Assume as a child, your father whipped you with his belt, and repeatedly told you that you would amount to nothing in life. Would this affect your ability to succeed later in life?…
We have now gone through the steps to help you to direct your life. In order to be successful in this endeavor, it is critical for you to take control of your life. This means you must take responsibility for everything that happens to you. Blaming others is simply giving away your control. If someone else dictates where your life is going, you become a victim with no power. We will take a deep dive on this concept in a future blog.
I have broken down our “Direct your life” series of blogs to 8 critical steps:
Accept full responsibility for everything that happens in your life.
Now that you have started taking the necessary action to bring you toward your goals, it becomes helpful to maintain the motivation to keep moving forward. Why not create personal rewards for reaching your goals? It is a powerful way to keep you on the path. Assume you have a goal of making $100,000 a year. You’ve always had a dream of going to Italy. Make the Italian trip your reward for reaching the goal. If you want to increase your drive, get pictures of all the places you want to see when you are in Italy and look at them every day.…
We’ve discussed the importance of ritualizing the activities or creating habits associated with moving you toward your goals. Now let’s examine the process of how you could begin your routine.
Let’s assume you wake up one day and decide that you would like your weight to be 15 pounds less then it is today. Since you are not exercising currently, you decide to join a gym and work out 5 days a week in order to lose the weight. The first day your alarm goes off at 5am, you get up and go straight to the gym. The next day your alarm goes off at 5am and you hit the snooze bar, but you do manage to go over lunch.…
Now that you have taken the action required to move you toward your goals, the next step is to repeat the action with regularity (daily, weekly, monthly etc). You do this by creating habits to ritualize the activities you need to do, in order to reach your goals. As humans we are all creatures of habit. Think about those things you do every morning to get ready for your day: Brushing your teeth, taking a shower, getting dressed, etc. Most of us even have an order to which we do each activity.
If you do these things every day you have made a commitment to the goal of good hygiene.If…
You have put forth the work to identify what you want to bring into your life. You have planned the steps to bring these desires into reality. There is one thing left to do–Execute! Intention and planning are great, but nothing happens without taking action.
