Resolve the Conflict

Long-term conflict is a cancer. So often we hold grudges against those we care about. We relive the drama by telling the story over and over again. The hate and anger builds and begins to eat us up inside. Wouldn’t it be easier to simply let it all go and resolve the conflict?

Every family has the proverbial shit-stirrer. This is the person that creates drama. They are temperamental and always seem to be at odds with someone in the family. They do their best to turn everyone who will listen against the person they are warring with. Why not attempt to make peace with this person. Once you succeed, limit your exposure to them. The less exposure the lower the probability you will have a future conflict.

There are no guarantees in life. One day we’re alive, the next we’re gone. Use that uncertainty as a motivator to help you bury any conflict you have, especially if it is with a loved one.

Homework: Identify somebody in your life that you are holding a grudge against, or someone holding a grudge against you. Be the bigger person and take the initiative to reach out and resolve the conflict.

If you know someone that can benefit from this advice, please pass it along.