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Get Out of Harm’s Way

As I write this there is a category five hurricane on a beeline towards my home. This is the home that I just bought, tore down to the studs, and put the finishing touches on only months ago. The vision running through my head is seeing the waterlogged remnants of all my stuff: the brand new furniture, the electronics, the collection of signed guitars and albums. I am visualizing the look on my wife’s face after all the work she put in to completing the project after we fired the contractor. I am seeing the response from my children as they witness the destruction of their rooms.…

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Posted by Joel Brookman in control what you can, preparation.

#595 Make Your Requests Reasonable and to the Right Person

We are talking this week about asking for what you want. When you ask, make your requests reasonable and to the right person. Make sure the person you are talking to can deliver what you need.…

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Posted by Joel Brookman in control what you can, Podcasts, Take Control of Your Life.

#412 The Danger of Arrogance

90SecondNavigator-AlbumArt The danger of arrogance is the assumption that you know better than everyone else.…

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Posted by Joel Brookman in attitude, control what you can, Ego and Success, Podcasts, Respect People, success.

#411 Consistent Predictions

90SecondNavigator-AlbumArt As humans we give ourselves far too much credit for our ability to make consistent predictions.…

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Posted by Joel Brookman in Can't see the whole picture, control what you can, Podcasts, success.

#409 Emotional Trauma

90SecondNavigator-AlbumArt One of the things I learned the hard way is that people with deep emotional trauma rarely fully recover. Consider this as you contemplate relationships in your life.…

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Posted by Joel Brookman in control what you can, Podcasts, protect yourself.

Things I’ve Learned the Hard Way

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I’m now in my 48th year on the planet and like most people at this stage of life, there are a few things I’ve learned the hard way.

1. Few people recover completely from deep-rooted emotional trauma. Early in my adult life I was involved with a woman that had major emotional challenges growing up. These were the types of challenges that could land you on an Oprah episode. I thought I could be the knight in shining armor. After all, I had an idyllic upbringing and I thought I could help her. I learned that these types of issues don’t go away.…

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Posted by Joel Brookman in Achieve Success, control what you can, protect yourself, success.

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