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Listen More and Talk Less

“A wise man once said nothing.”

“I know” are two dangerous words. If you know everything, you will learn nothing. Furthermore, nobody likes a know-it-all. Perhaps it makes sense to listen more and talk less. Get interested and take advantage of opportunities to increase your knowledge base.

Stop assuming

As someone begins speaking about a subject that you are knowledgeable about, resist the urge to interject your thoughts. Allow them to speak and see if anything comes up that you didn’t know.

Defer to an expert

When speaking with a subject matter expert, let go of that which you think you know and take in the knowledge that is being espoused.…

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Posted by Joel Brookman in listen, Make people like you, Uncategorized.

Let Go

Is there someone from your past that did something so awful that it affects you to this day? Maybe your father told you that you would never amount to anything. You could choose to believe him and allow his words to define who you are, or you could choose to let go by realizing that you control your destiny and no one has the power to take that away from you.

Stop blaming other people for your problems

If you blame others for your circumstances, you are giving away your power and relegating yourself to a victim. Victims are at the mercy of those around them.…

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Posted by Joel Brookman in Direct Your Life, eliminate negativity, overcoming limiting beliefs, Uncategorized.

Stay Positive

You wake in a panic as you realize that your alarm should have gone off 30 minutes ago. In that moment your negativity takes over and you tell yourself that you’re in for a bad day. In your haste you spill coffee on your shirt. Your spouse is giving you a hard time over a household project that you never completed. You finally get out the door only to find yourself sitting in an endless traffic jam. Your boss calls asking where you are, then proceeds to tell you that you’ve just lost your largest client. You may argue that some of these circumstances may be out of your control, but your reaction to them is certainly in your control.…

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Posted by Joel Brookman in discipline, eliminate negativity, Positive Attitude, Positivity.

Law of Averages

In college I had a friend I’ll call Jay. Jay lived in the apartment next door during my senior year. Our apartment complex was situated off a reasonably busy road. One day Jay drove me to class. When we pulled out of the complex to make a left turn (onto a two way road) he looked left, realized he was clear, then put the gas pedal to the floor. He did all this without ever looking right. On the day he drove me, fortunately there were no cars coming from the right. When I asked him about it he said that there were rarely any cars coming from that direction so he was fine.…

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Posted by Joel Brookman in risk.

Social Interaction Drives Happiness

A study was done that suggested that people from Denmark are the happiest in the world. Their happiness was attributed to their social interaction. It seems that 92% of Danes are members of some form of social group. Humans are social beings. We thrive when we are in the presence of those we enjoy. Another study was done in the late 90’s that suggested that 70 percent of our happiness is derived from our personal relationships. That includes, family, friends, neighbors and co-workers.

We all have special people we have met at some point in our lives. People for which we enjoy spending time.…

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Posted by Joel Brookman in happiness, Make people like you, relationships.

Put More Fun in Your Life

My wife was riding on a bike path as a little girl (probably seven or eight years old) approached from the opposite direction. Just before they crossed paths, a series of mud puddles presented themselves. In an attempt to remain clean and dry, my wife carefully plotted her path to avoid the puddles. As she was doing this, the little girl sped up and rode directly through the middle of each puddle letting out a shriek of delight as mud covered her beautiful outfit. It’s clear who had more fun in this situation. At some point in our lives we become “too mature” to do things like this.…

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Posted by Joel Brookman in Fun, happiness.